If you’ve never had an orgasm before

13 Best Vibration Apps for Massage for Android & iOS

Luckily, I have a few tips and tricks to help you narrow things down. “Lelo’s Nea 3 is the perfect vibrator for someone who wants discreet, powerful, external stimulation,” says sex therapist Leigh Noren. Indeed, it looks more like an objet d’art than a sex toy, and is small enough to fit in pretty much any bag or pocket, so it’s a great pick for those who need discretion. Its gently curved shape allows it to slot neatly between bodies during sex. While it’s designed mainly for clitoral use, you can also try this one on the nipples, labia, balls, taint, or frenulum.

The brand has since launched numerous iterations, including the G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator. It’s designed like a standard dildo vibrators, only it’s a bit shorter and curved at the end to stimulate the G-spot. The additional protrusion—in the shape of a rabbit complete with two bunny ears— stimulates the clitoris at the same time.

Others were marketed as plain-old massagers, beauty aids and weight-loss devices. I stopped the action, Dave pulled away, and the loud buzzing returned. Maybe my vaginal…region is just too big, but this thing was not going to stick.

The vibrator is one-size-fits-all and designed to fit into any of your panties, simply with a little magnet that securely keeps it in place. Hook it up with the We-Connect mobile app and your partner can control your panties from literally anywhere — yes, even across the globe. With over 1,000 glowing reviews, this bullet vibrator is designed exclusively for external use and is not suitable for anal play.

They either need better placement or should be less sensitive to the touch. I highly doubt I’m going to be the only one riding high on specific vibrations or patterns, then get my orgasm kicked to the curb with one wrong move. I stand by the fact that it’s fantastic and serves up one heck of an orgasm (and in record time!), but Womanizer has been doing that for lots of people with vulvas for a long time now.

Don’t be deceived by its size – this petite vibrator stimulates the clitoris with a powerful tapping sensation, with the help of three speeds and six vibration patterns. Our in-house team of reviewers has collectively tried over 500 sex toys—the ones we featured here are amongst their tried-and-true faves. We also asked sex educators and therapists to share the products that have been the biggest game-changers in their clients’ and patients’ solo and partnered sex lives. The final list only includes options that earned two enthusiastic thumbs up. Our favorite palm vibe, the Le Wand Point, has a sleek stainless steel handle and an uber-soft ridged silicone tip. The heavier steel end allows the toy to provide more pressure than an all-silicone option, Finn previously told SELF.

For those who enjoy versatility, this vibrator features one non-vibrating side and one vibrating side — both great for vaginal and anal pleasure. It looks luxurious, and you can play with three vibration patterns and three power levels. “Pleasure and orgasm are really good for you because they release hormones that reduce stress and anxiety,” says Zar. For most women, the clitoris is the gateway to orgasm — and this toy is made specifically for that pleasure part.

Whether you’re looking for something to use solo or with a partner, you can’t go wrong with the Magic Bullet. As its name suggests, the Dame Pom is tiny enough to fit in the palm of your hand, but that doesn’t mean it’s not mighty in its vibration powers. This vibe features five vibration patterns and five intensities that’ll satisfy all of your sexual needs. The Svakom Cici Waterproof Silicone Vibrator’s flexible neck bends up to 30 degrees to hit all of the right spots, but that’s not the only reason why we’re loving this G-spot massager. Its six vibration modes and long, ergonomic shape can be used for both internal and external stimulation — so you can get the best of both worlds.

“Launching this new technology is our way of breaking the mold of what people should expect from pleasure products, especially vibrators,” said Michelle Shnaidman, CEO of Bellesa. Vibrators create much more intense stimulation than fingers , tongues, or penises can. If you’ve never had an orgasm before, you may find it easier to have your first one with a vibrator.

Ideally, you should take the material into consideration when choosing your toy in the first place, but it’s okay if you skipped that step—you can look up your toy online to double-check. When you scarcely learn anything useful about the very basics in sex ed, it’s unlikely anyone went out of their way to tell you how to use a vibrator for the first time. For most of us, you literally have to take matters (including whatever batteries you might need) into your own hands.